This election has surfaced so much of the misogyny that exists in our culture, and that I’ve seen in myself and my own life. It’s crazy to see it on display out in front of us. This election has been so triggering for me in that way.
Hillary is the most experienced candidate in history, it should be no contest, but here we are with this tight race because the American public is biased against women in power, in leadership roles. I spoke with a guy friend about this, who said, ya know I don’t know why it is, but I just don’t trust women to lead the way I do a man.
There’s an infamous soundbite from Hillary, “I suppose I could have stayed home and baked cookies and had teas, but what I decided to do was to fulfill my profession, which I entered before my husband was in public life.” I read in Time Magazine that they were one of the few publications that quoted her full statement, which actually finished with so she help women no matter what they want to do, and have the choice that’s best for them.
No one remembers that part, it was left out of the media’s conversation, and now our history. She already was challenging the status quo as a woman, and the first part of the quote fit right into that image.
So much of this world, our systems, have been created by men for men, and so women have had to act like men, instead of like women to thrive in the professional world. We desperately need role models for feminine leadership. What does it mean to lead as a woman, not like a man? Our communities are suffering for having buried these feminine qualities and devaluing them.
To heal our country and our planet, we need a rebalancing with an integration of feminine leadership qualities. More listening, more collaboration, more focusing on togetherness.
Our two major-party candidates couldn’t be more dichotomous of moving backwards for women or forward.
Up until Bill Clinton ran for the Governors Race in Arkansas, Hillary had kept her own last name. She had kept her own more progressive style of speaking out and dressing differently. When he lost that race, many people believe she took on some of that responsibility. She didn’t fit enough into the mold as a governor's wife. After that, she changed her hairstyle, her wardrobe, and she took her husband’s last name. He won the next race.
She learned that to make progress in the political system, she was going to have to fit into it, where it was. To me it exemplifies just one of the many ways she’s personally sacrificed to make it where she is, to be that first woman to become President of the United States of America.